“I have no duty to be anyone’s Friend and no one in the world has a duty to be mine. No claims, no shadow of necessity. Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art, like the universe itself (for God did not need to create). It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which gives value to survival.”

“Friendship arises out of mere Companionship when two or more of the companions discover that they have in common some insight or interest or even taste which the others do not share and which, till that moment, each believed to be his or her own unique treasure (or burden).”

“But in Friendship…we think we have chosen our peers. In reality, a few years’ difference in the dates of our births, a few more miles between certain houses, the choice of one university instead of another, posting to different regiments, the accident of a topic being raised or not raised at a first meeting – any of these chances might have kept us apart. But, for a Christian, there are, strictly speaking, no chances. A secret Master of the Ceremonies has been at work. Christ, who said to the disciples “Ye have no chosen me, but I have chosen you,” can truly say to every group of Christian friends “You have no chosen one another but I have chosen you for one another.” The Friendship is not a reward for our discrimination and good taste in finding one another out. It is the instrument by which God reveals to each the beauties of all the others. They are no greater than the beauties of a thousand greater men or women; by Friendship God opens our eyes to them.”

– C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves (made gender inclusive by yours truly)


I’ve followed Postsecret since high school, meticulously saving the secrets that resonated with me, challenged me, or gave me insight into the human experience. I like PS because it gives a glimpse into humanity in a very individual way. There are though, a lot of draw backs to it and the expectations around it as well. PS is limited, but it does serve some purpose. Enjoy the first installment of my Postsecret series, themed Parents.